From One Friend To Another

I recently caught up with a group of girlfriends for drinks and a general debrief on the last few months as there are a few of us that are either living with their parents or with their in-laws. I think we can all imagine the debrief that was required!

A few drinks in and one of the girls starts telling us about how her MIL is starting to take over her house. We all have a chuckle. Whose mother hasn’t dropped by for a visit and rearranged your cupboards? It’s a mum thing.

Then she starts to get into her story and we realise this is more than just rearranging cupboards.MIL being super passive aggressive towards her. So of course we are all intrigued to find out what MILs version of passive aggressive is.

Turns out, MIL tells her how imperfect my friends house is and how it is always a mess. Instantly we are all like, oh that's not too bad like its probs a one off comment, but oh no this poor girl gets to hear these comments multiple times a week like a broken record, to the point that she starts to doubt herself and think that she isn't good enough.

You can just imagine how fast we all started rapid firing questions at her. What did you say next? Is your house really that messy or is she over reacting? What does your partner say? Our friends answers question after question and we all start to feel a little suspicious. Then came the question that shut us all up..... is she deliberately trying to make you feel like you aren't good enough for her son?

Boom. Mic Drop. Walk Out The Door.

It was like all our jaws hit the ground at the same time with the realisation that this is exactly what was going on. Outrage and horror are spewing from our lips as we all try to comfort our friend and shine a light at the end of the tunnel for her. This is where the plot thickens, not only has she been commenting about my friends home, she also has started to comment on how my friend and her partner should conceive. According to MIL dearest, they are ONLY allowed to conceive via IVF because MIL says that's the only way that they will have a "healthy normal" baby. Yep you read that right. Now my friend has ZERO fertility issues and hasn't even spoken with her partner about conceiving let alone having her MIL dictate to her how she is "allowed" to.

Tequila shot anyone?

By this point we were all raging for this poor girl, like how the hell has she not punched her MIL in the face already!

Thankfully, unlike the rest of us, she has been able to stay relatively calm and collected despite the constant barrages in her own home. Is no place sacred anymore?

After another glass of baileys and a tequila shot the next girl began her debrief on living with in-laws and I promise that it has just as much punch as this poor girls story but that is for another time!

Anyone feeling better about their MIL right now?

I think we can all appreciate what it is like to live with in-laws and parents, and can have a giggle and maybe even a few "omg I've so been there" moments whilst reading through this article.

If you want to hear more of these stories let me know I have PLENTY!